Jacob Elordi says he calls his mom three or four times a day — red flag or cute?
The internet is divided after the actor revealed just how often he calls his mom, and everyone seems to have a strong opinion.
Jacob Elordi has spent the last few years building a reputation as Hollywood’s brooding heartthrob. He’s mysterious and somehow always in a headline. But lately, people started to talk about something new that wasn’t a movie role or a red-carpet moment. It was his relationship with his mom. Specifically, how often he calls her. And once that number hit the internet, the debate was inevitable.
Is calling your mom three or four times a day the ultimate green flag? Or does it cross into “there’s not enough room for another woman in this equation” territory? Depending on who you ask, the answer still says a lot more about modern dating.
Backround
Elordi, 27, first became a household name through HBO’s Euphoria, where his portrayal of Nate Jacobs made him one of the most talked-about and divisive characters on television. Since then, he’s leaned hard into darker, prestige projects, including Guillermo del Toro’s Frankenstein and Emerald Fennell’s upcoming adaptation of Wuthering Heights, expected in 2026. He’s also appearing in The Dog Stars, a post-apocalyptic drama coming out in 2026. We can clearly see him shifting into more serious territory.
The story
The moment comes from a short interview that’s now making the rounds. Elordi is seated casually, dressed simply, speaking in a calm, almost soft-spoken tone, nothing performative. When asked who he calls almost every day, he doesn’t hesitate.
“I call my mom probably three times a day,” he says, then corrects himself, “Three, four times a day.” The interviewer follows up, and Elordi smiles, clearly comfortable. “My mum is a saint,” he adds. “She’s my best friend in the world. And I would be completely at sea without her.”
He goes on to explain that his mother was among the first to encourage him to act. “There was no other kind of outlet for my behavior,” he says with a laugh. “So I think it was like, it’s either this or we have to lock you away somewhere.”
It’s a sweet story, delivered earnestly with no irony. Just a guy talking about his mom. But, the internet couldn’t help but point out the ways in which that might be a red flag.
Reactions
The comment section quickly split into camps. On one side, people were waving green flags. “A person who values, appreciates, and loves their mom is priceless,” one commenter wrote. “Remember, our parents won’t be around forever.”
Another added, “I think a man who loves his mum is just so beautiful… before you fall for any man, first take a look at the way he treats his mother.”
But not everyone was convinced this was purely wholesome. Several commenters zeroed in on the frequency. “Calling your mum four times a day as a grown adult is worrying in terms of attachment and independence,” one wrote.
Another put it more bluntly, saying, “Three times a day? Good luck fitting another woman into that equation.” It wasn’t the love for his mother that concerned some commenters. It was the assumed emotional support he needed from her all day. One user joked, “If my son calls me 3x a day I will have to block him.”
Another cut straight to the heart of the divide, saying, “The boy moms in here are loving this, but the wives in here, not so much”. Inevitably, a few people boiled it down to a single verdict, “Red flag.”
Red flag or cute?
Here’s where I land, speaking as a grown man with a wife. Loving your mom is not a red flag. In fact, a man who respects his mother often understands empathy and patience in a way others don’t.
But three or four calls a day? Every day? That starts to feel less like connection and more like emotional centralization. At some point, your partner has to be your primary emotional peer. If there’s no room for that because mom already occupies the top spot, things can get complicated fast.
That said, context matters. We don’t know what those calls look like. Are they quick check-ins or full emotional debriefs? The internet loves extremes, but real relationships usually live somewhere in the gray. Some people see deep family ties as grounding. Others see them as a warning sign. All in all, most of us are probably projecting our own experiences onto a guy who just happens to be famous and honest on camera.
