Which Bridgerton brother are you?
From Anthony’s relentless need for control to Colin’s search for external validation, we break down the behavioral patterns that make these brothers so relatable.
If you spend your downtime scrolling through Regency drama while secretly eyeing the velvet waistcoats and manicured lawns, you might be enchanted by the charming men of the Bridgerton family. With the first half of season four already fueling the Benedict obsession, it is the ideal time to figure out whose polished boots you’d actually be wearing while we wait for part two to drop.
Beneath their fancy titles and the juicy gossip surrounding Mayfair, these men face modern-day struggles as they try to fit into the perfect world of the 19th century. If you are someone who is trying to find your footing while the whole world is watching, you might see yourself in the Bridgerton brothers. So, which one do you relate to the most?
The weight of being first: Anthony Bridgerton
Anthony Bridgerton is a character who is fiercely ambitious and focused on fulfilling his duties as the eldest brother. He loves taking charge of his family matters, often overbearing. He is magnetic but stubborn, only letting his guard down during a Pall-Mall game or when he is blindsided by a bee. Anthony eventually gives in to the fact that his perfect match is someone who challenges him, famously admitting that Kate is the ‘bane of his existence and the object of all his desires’.
Many men can feel the weight of parentification, taking on responsibility for the emotional well-being of those around them, which relates to Anthony’s character. Sometimes, you might hide your more sensitive side behind a determination to fulfill your duties, because showing vulnerability might feel like losing control.
If you express love by taking care of others (sometimes by being over-possessive) and occasionally nagging them, much like Anthony does with his family, and if you often prioritize others’ happiness over your own, then you might be the “Viscount” of your social circle.
The reluctant romantic: Benedict Bridgerton
Benedict is an open-minded, charming character who often seems lost in his own thoughts as he immerses himself in his love for art. He questions society’s strict rules and values his independence, which can sometimes manifest as avoidant coping; a way to escape the typical expectations of his name, making him appear a bit detached from worldly concerns.
However, he is the sibling you can count on for a friendly chat on the swings with Eloise or for getting a little too cheerful after enjoying some tea cakes at formal events. As season four’s leading man, we watch him grow from a carefree bachelor, to a reluctant romantic who falls in love at first sight.
If the thought of a typical career path makes you want to run away, or if you’re just navigating through life waiting for a sign, you might see yourself in Benedict. You are a Benedict if you value deep, meaningful conversations and aren’t afraid to step outside your comfort zone. Society’s traditional rules don’t concern you, and you always follow what makes you happy. If you often take the time to listen to others because you understand what it feels like to be a bit lost, then you have a lot in common with Benedict Bridgerton.
The clueless wanderer: Colin Bridgerton
Colin Bridgerton is a lively socialite who loves being the center of attention. He is adventurous and carefree, always seeking excitement beyond Mayfair. With his cheerful personality, he easily adapts to different situations. Although Colin is caring and values his relationships, he can be quite clueless at times.
For years, he relied on his friend Penelope for emotional support while joking that he could never see himself marrying her because he was too focused on his adventures to notice the feelings between them. As he begins his journey as a writer, Colin finally sees the importance of those relationships and recognizes the people who have always been there for him.
If you’ve ever returned from a vacation feeling like a completely different person, or if you often turn to friends for support without realizing it, you might relate to Colin. You’re the friend who is always chasing the next big adventure, thinking that a change in scenery will solve your inner restlessness.
You have a fun-loving and brave spirit, yet you come to understand that you don’t need to travel far to feel purposeful. If you’ve ever realized way too late that the best thing in your life was there the whole time, you just didn’t notice it, you are a Colin.
The takeaway
The Bridgerton brothers guide us to the various ways we all seek to find our place in society. In Anthony, we see someone who feels the need to protect others; in Benedict, a quest for a deep, meaningful connection; and in Colin, the discovery that his true purpose has always been at home. Watching each one of them is seeing your own reflection in how you handle love and societal pressure; a sign that the human struggle to be loved for who they are stays the same, even if the waistcoats change.
As we wait for the second half of Benedict’s story in Season 4, the anticipation is at an all-time high to see how this creative and free-spirited character finally finds his match. Because at the end of the day, the greatest scandal isn’t what Lady Whistledown writes, it’s the courage it takes to stop pretending and be yourself.
